Frequently asked questions…

What if I need to change or cancel my appointment?

No problem!  Just give us a call.  Please note however that other people may need your appointment time, so unless cancellations are received with 24 hours notice, the full session fee will be charged.

What is the Getting the Love You Want Workshop?

In New Zealand, The Imago Institute run weekend workshops for couples throughout the year.  Couples who attend these workshops report that their relationships have benefited enormously.  Indeed, research shows that couples that do the best out of therapy are those that have both attended a Getting the Love You Want workshop and couples counselling.  More information about these workshops can be found at http://www.relationships.co.nz/couples-workshop/

Do you encourage individual sessions?

Your therapist’s main priority is to improve the quality of the connection between you as a couple.  However, sometimes there are things that get in the way from us being able to receive our partner’s love, or prevent us from feeling safe enough to connect with our partner in-session.  In those circumstances, your therapist may agree to offer you individual sessions (with the consent of your partner) for the benefit of your relationship.

What about communication between sessions?

It is important that all communication between you and your therapist happens within the counselling session.   This is to ensure each partner feels safe.  With the exception of scheduling issues, your therapist will only talk with you about your relationship when each of you is in the room.

How many sessions will I need?

Therapy is not a quick fix!  Whilst we can learn new communication tools in a relatively short space of time, most couples have deeply ingrained patterns of relating.  It takes time to replace unhelpful, reactive behaviours with conscious, empathic ones.  The best thing you can do for your relationship is to invest the time and energy it takes to be the best partner you can be.

Most couples begin attending weekly sessions, then progress to fortnightly/monthly as their relationship improves.

What Can I Expect from Couples Counselling?

Most couples come with a belief that their partner is the problem in their relationship.  Learning to take responsibility and identify how we each contribute to the dynamics of the relationship is one of the goals of therapy.

Your therapist will work with you to facilitate safe, effective communication between you.  From this place of connection, you will be able to explore the problems in your relationship and come up with practical ways that you can better meet one another’s needs.